Proposal: that there be an a space on user profiles for listing our gender identity and preferred pronouns. More and more often these days, I run into other Grommr users who are trans, nonbinary, don’t identify as men, and/or don't use he/him/his pronouns. Designating a space on profile forms where one could list their gender identity and preferred pronouns right alongside our [weight, relationship status, body type, etc] would mean a lot to users like me who love Grommr, but get weary of being called names / pronouns that don’t suit us, or otherwise being misunderstood by our fellow, well-meaning users. A gender identity / preferred pronoun option would make it easy to signal clearly to everyone who we are right off the bat.

I think there's more than one right way to do this, but perhaps two free spaces, one each for gender identity and preferred pronoun, would do the trick. Some sites like OKCupid have gone the route of offering a long drop-down list, but why not just let us tell each other who we are in our own words?

Thank you for reading, and please upvote! If you want to talk more about this, feel free to message me on Grommr :)

-- Matt / @poundsoflove
[nonbinary ; they / them / theirs]

Now that the company has seen the success of it's apps and communities it is time to have proactive monitoring for violations. A reactive monitoring system on communities this large (no pun intended) is no longer acceptable. I personally send 5-35 reports every day as well as many other users. The revenue received from ads as well as premium accounts coupled with the time saved from admins having to send communications with the reporter is more than enough to handle at least one active monitor at all times. Not only is it a sound business choice, but would greatly improve the experience of users not violating terms and decrease users lost due to being fed up with violations "slipping through". This would also solve the problem of trolls running rampant during off peak hours. It's past time for this change to be made. Relying on your consumers to fill this role is not only a poor business choice, but also frustrating as a consumer and community member.

The increase in photo manipulation tools (Photoshop, FaceTune, etc.) and monetization in weight gain (Patreon, OnlyFans, etc) has caused an influx of gainers who are taking advantage of the community space to amass personal, monetary gains while deceiving others. While the Grokio admins cannot police what actually happens on those other sites, they can verify that all users are recording their weight appropriately, including people who claim to be using that money for gains are actually gaining weight and are recording their weight appropriately. One potential way could be the addition of a verification system, similar to other social media platforms, such as Twitter. On a site level, this would only require the addition of a symbol similar to the follow/following star next to a user's weight. On a community level, weights could be verified at any grommoffs/BRW/The Grom, anywhere where a Grommr admin may be present, or a video could be sent to an admin by multiple users. Verification will have no affect on user experience, but can hopefully provide a special moment for gainers crossing weight thresholds, provide a sense of accomplishment for those able to gain that weight (such as the Butter Queen contest at BRW 2018), and encourage participation of some gainers to interact with the community at these events.

Due to the nature of Grokio's offerings, the platform should support two-factor authentication. A breach of a user's password (for whatever reason, including their own incompetence) may be more than a mere inconvenience due to social stigmas.

The most interoperable and common form of 2FA these days is TOTP. It's more commonly seen in the guise of Google Authenticator and a bajillion more... even many password managers will automatically copy your TOTP token to your clipboard after auto-filling your credentials these days.

It would be a great optional feature for users to enable, enabling more trust in the platform. And it would be something that would be easily worked into a login workflow for both web and mobile.

Introduce the category of 'enabler' to the list of identifiers (ie alongside gainer, encourager, admirer, maintainer, muscle gainer)

What is an 'enabler'?
Encouraging gainers is typically viewed through the spectrum of feederism - The gainer being the feedee and the encourager being the feeder, and this act of feeding is often seen as an erotic act in of itself. However, enabling is a more passive form of encouragement. Generally speaking, the act of feeding is less sexual in nature - for the enabler, their goal is to ensure that the gainer is well provided for without exerting unnecessary energy.
A typical example would be that an enabler would go to lengths to ensure that a gainer has something to eat while watching a movie together, or suggesting getting something to eat before and after to make sure the gainer doesn't go hungry.

In essence, the enabler exists to 'enable' the gainer's gluttony, and through it, weight gain, and to help make the process of weight gain as easy as possible. For many enablers, this is often explained as the process of enabling being means to an end - encouraging in itself is not the driving erotic aspect, the weight gain is. For other enablers, this can take a more holistic, lifestyle approach as well, enabling a gainer to live a more sedentary or easy lifestyle.

Grommr Messaging Only App - Since there seems to be some trouble getting the full Grommr experience approved / sanitized for the App Store, I was thinking perhaps a "messenger only" style app might be easy to get approved and very useful for the user base. Even if there were no profile pictures, just names, the ability to get push notifications of new messages I think would greatly enhance the user experience. So many users complain about ghosting and difficulties with messaging, and after a few interactions with other users these past few weeks, I'm realizing they don't have the app and don't get notifications of new messages. Also made me realize why so many other chat apps are popular among users here, sharing WhatsApp ids etc. So to summarize, make a barebones boring easy-for-app-store-tyrants to approve chat/messaging application with push notifications that can be used to enhance the user experience for everyone who sends and receives messages on this platform.