Hey,

It would be really nice if there would be a function on the site, with which you can put your account on "unactive".Which means for other people it looks like you deleted your account, and without putting it back on "active" the user cannot use the site as well.

This would be nice because I want to take a break from feabie for example, but i don't want to remove my whole account. That means all pictures will be gone, and the time im on this site will start over again once i recreate my account. Is this something you guys could think about?

Regards
Me ;)

Proposal: that there be an a space on user profiles for listing our gender identity and preferred pronouns. More and more often these days, I run into other Grommr users who are trans, nonbinary, don’t identify as men, and/or don't use he/him/his pronouns. Designating a space on profile forms where one could list their gender identity and preferred pronouns right alongside our [weight, relationship status, body type, etc] would mean a lot to users like me who love Grommr, but get weary of being called names / pronouns that don’t suit us, or otherwise being misunderstood by our fellow, well-meaning users. A gender identity / preferred pronoun option would make it easy to signal clearly to everyone who we are right off the bat.

I think there's more than one right way to do this, but perhaps two free spaces, one each for gender identity and preferred pronoun, would do the trick. Some sites like OKCupid have gone the route of offering a long drop-down list, but why not just let us tell each other who we are in our own words?

Thank you for reading, and please upvote! If you want to talk more about this, feel free to message me on Grommr :)

-- Matt / @poundsoflove
[nonbinary ; they / them / theirs]

Is it possible to add a section for users to add moderated blog posts in order to share tips on either gaining or encouraging (for example Suggestions for gaining on a budget, high calorie recipes, what to look out for when feeding someone etc) that remains outside the timeline so people who either do not follow one specific individual or are just online at different times can see the posts without scrolling through the newsfeed. In addition to this, the added ability for users to leave comments on the posts to say anything between "this worked for me" or "I improved on this by" etc

It seems somewhat unethical for Grommr to use others photo content to make money the way they do. The number of restrictions that non-XL users have is pushing many users to Twitter bc the regulation and paywall on grommr is so intense. You have ads on the app for non-XL users, so what is the need to not allow users to see all of another users photos? For a web community that is for a minority community who already finds it hard to find people like them it seems cruel to charge over five dollars per month on the only site available for them. Correct me if I am wrong but it seems the developers for Grommr charge more than they need to keep the site running. I come from a CS background and if things don’t get better I’m considering making my own site because this community deserves a space that is more accessible and equitable for all.

With the latest update to the rules, the promotion of paid, community-relevant content has been codified. FOSTA/SESTA concerns have been addressed by excluding particular services.

With this in mind - I believe that people making promotional newsfeed entries (photos, posts) should be given a checkbox during the submission process that allows them to indicate the new content being submitted is paid content promotion.

Eg. "[x] Paid content promotion"

This would then include a standard icon of sorts at the beginning of their post - perhaps "Ad" or "Promo" in reversed colours and maybe a means of either including or excluding those posts in one's feed through the "My type" filter.

For people who a person is following, they've clearly expressed an interest in that person's posts, and just like "My type" filter in general, those people would still appear in "My Newsfeed", but not in the Global or Local feeds of someone who had excluded promotional posts.