Implementing a Designated Space to List Gender Identity / Preferred Pronouns on Grommr/Feabie/Chasabl Profiles
Proposal: that there be an a space on user profiles for listing our gender identity and preferred pronouns. More and more often these days, I run into other Grommr users who are trans, nonbinary, don’t identify as men, and/or don't use he/him/his pronouns. Designating a space on profile forms where one could list their gender identity and preferred pronouns right alongside our [weight, relationship status, body type, etc] would mean a lot to users like me who love Grommr, but get weary of being called names / pronouns that don’t suit us, or otherwise being misunderstood by our fellow, well-meaning users. A gender identity / preferred pronoun option would make it easy to signal clearly to everyone who we are right off the bat.
I think there's more than one right way to do this, but perhaps two free spaces, one each for gender identity and preferred pronoun, would do the trick. Some sites like OKCupid have gone the route of offering a long drop-down list, but why not just let us tell each other who we are in our own words?
Thank you for reading, and please upvote! If you want to talk more about this, feel free to message me on Grommr :)
-- Matt / @poundsoflove
[nonbinary ; they / them / theirs]
Somehow I don't believe the number of votes on this suggestion within the 4 month time-span of it being posted. This is more indicative of someone spam-voting. Every other suggestion on the feedback site that are over 200 votes are older than 1 year or more. There is only one other suggestion on the site with more than 852 votes, and that is 8 years old. The other one lower at 641 is also 8 years old. Most votes on sugestions don't seem to go over 200.
We need options for Transgender Women, Transgender Men, and Nonbinary Individuals.
Just saying "transgender" isn't enough.
jay heath commented
Proposal: Since grommr is a queer site there should be a space for users to specify their orientation. As Feabie already exists for straight people there should be several options availabe for users to make clear what their orientation is (Gay, Bi, Ace, Queer, Questioning, etc).
Please remove "other" from the gender category and replace with "non-binary" I am legally recognized in the state of CA as having a non-binary gender on my birth certificate and ID documents. Non-Binary is a all-encompassing term for people outside of the binary male/female dichotomy. You should also include intersex as a gender.
Dear Feabie staff:
I really like the option to be able to choose the "Site-wide my type filter" as I'm interested in women only. I mean, I don't hate men, but I neither have anything to say to them on this page, so I find it pleasant here to see women only.
However, it would be even more precise, if I could choose between "women" and "trans-women" for the same reason. I happen to be the one who like real women only.
Or if that's not an feature for your to develop, maybe you could add a tiny logo in every member's thumbnail image that shows the gender of the member?
Because 99 times of 100 it's a real woman that I'm interacting with. And after checking the gender of dozens of real women, some day I start forgetting to check their real gender in their profile. And after forgetting to check the gender, some day I end up interacting with a very beautiful woman. No. Wait. Trans-woman! OMG. Then I again remember to go and check the real gender of every woman for months, unless I forget it again, and I find myself interacting with a trans-woman.
That's why I'd like to whether exclude trans-women by default, or be reminded repeatedly and noticeably about the gender of the member that I'm interacting with.
In other words: Even if there is the "gender" to be checked in everyone's profile, I think it could be much more visible to prevent misunderstandings.
I know, I'm a little narrow-mined on this, but I would really appreciate if you could help me on this. I would assume that many other members would find it very helpful as well!
Many thanks! ❤️
The sister site, Feabie, has gender selection which can be mixed. For example, if you are trans mtf, you select Transgender and Female. If you are intersex, you select Male and Female.
I was thinking you need to change up some of the profile choices to fix the filter. For instance, gender needs to not be male, female, transgender, because many trans choose the gender they feel they are and not the tran choice. I think it could be Cis-male, Cis-female, Tran-male, Tran-female, and this would clear up the confusion. Another big one is there is no foodee option, so many click the feedee butoon but then say, "i am not interested in ever gaining" then you are not a feedee. I think they think it means foodee, loving food and being full. i also wonder if we could have an option for those who are only on here to sell. for instance many profiles have "wishlists" and prices for photos, i'd love to filter those ones out. I want to meet real feedees not girls wanting to sell her progress and have anyone buy her stuff
Thanks for the improvements: I'm loving the updates to Grommr! I can identify as a muscle gainer right on my profile now, and I feel like I belong. However, I would like to request an option for transgender men to identify themselves on their profiles. I'm cis but I love big chubby trans guys. I know a couple guys who have been interested in Grommr, but not sure if they fit in here. It would be nice to be able to welcome them into this community! Trans guys like getting bigger too :) I'd love to see a gender option for trans and gender non-conforming people. There must be some people on that side of the spectrum using the site already, but that option could help them feel more included.
Thanks for your hard work!!
I don't think it's necessary. Gay males tend to be pretty accepting of people who identify as a gender different from their biological sex.
I think it should just be males because some people don't like looking at females if they are gay, just my opinion
rather than not choosing gender at all .. include
non-binary [or queer]
A lot of people who join grommr .. leave it right after they sign in because they don't feel welcomed .. it will remain a male dominant platform .. but this will attract more people and make them stay.
please consider this.