Hey,

It would be really nice if there would be a function on the site, with which you can put your account on "unactive".Which means for other people it looks like you deleted your account, and without putting it back on "active" the user cannot use the site as well.

This would be nice because I want to take a break from feabie for example, but i don't want to remove my whole account. That means all pictures will be gone, and the time im on this site will start over again once i recreate my account. Is this something you guys could think about?

Regards
Me ;)

Proposal: that there be an a space on user profiles for listing our gender identity and preferred pronouns. More and more often these days, I run into other Grommr users who are trans, nonbinary, don’t identify as men, and/or don't use he/him/his pronouns. Designating a space on profile forms where one could list their gender identity and preferred pronouns right alongside our [weight, relationship status, body type, etc] would mean a lot to users like me who love Grommr, but get weary of being called names / pronouns that don’t suit us, or otherwise being misunderstood by our fellow, well-meaning users. A gender identity / preferred pronoun option would make it easy to signal clearly to everyone who we are right off the bat.

I think there's more than one right way to do this, but perhaps two free spaces, one each for gender identity and preferred pronoun, would do the trick. Some sites like OKCupid have gone the route of offering a long drop-down list, but why not just let us tell each other who we are in our own words?

Thank you for reading, and please upvote! If you want to talk more about this, feel free to message me on Grommr :)

-- Matt / @poundsoflove
[nonbinary ; they / them / theirs]

Is it possible to add a section for users to add moderated blog posts in order to share tips on either gaining or encouraging (for example Suggestions for gaining on a budget, high calorie recipes, what to look out for when feeding someone etc) that remains outside the timeline so people who either do not follow one specific individual or are just online at different times can see the posts without scrolling through the newsfeed. In addition to this, the added ability for users to leave comments on the posts to say anything between "this worked for me" or "I improved on this by" etc

With the latest update to the rules, the promotion of paid, community-relevant content has been codified. FOSTA/SESTA concerns have been addressed by excluding particular services.

With this in mind - I believe that people making promotional newsfeed entries (photos, posts) should be given a checkbox during the submission process that allows them to indicate the new content being submitted is paid content promotion.

Eg. "[x] Paid content promotion"

This would then include a standard icon of sorts at the beginning of their post - perhaps "Ad" or "Promo" in reversed colours and maybe a means of either including or excluding those posts in one's feed through the "My type" filter.

For people who a person is following, they've clearly expressed an interest in that person's posts, and just like "My type" filter in general, those people would still appear in "My Newsfeed", but not in the Global or Local feeds of someone who had excluded promotional posts.

Since art theft is such a big issue on ferzu I think it would be a good idea to create a page or something with artwork people can use if they don't have their own art (yet). This to hopefully bring the numbers for stolen art down. I think a lot of the time when people use stolen art they probably don't know any better. Instead of only having rules saying you shouldn't steal art I think it would be a good idea to give them another option so they feel less inclined to steal art in the first place.

Artists on ferzu could choose to donate art to this cause (I definitely would donate) and there could be a link to the page in the rules with something along the lines of "if you do not have any art yet you can find some free to use art in this link. Don't forget to credit the artist if you do end up using the art though." and maybe the welcome bot could add this to their welcome message too. Less importantly I think this would be a great way to support artists too if this idea works, because it could help them get their art out there and attract customers.

In my many years of interacting with great people here I have come to see that some suffer from severe depression others from severe conflict others from health issues related to their obsessive gaining and
General issues of coming out and family dynamics. It would be very helpful to have support of links perhaps directed to local LGBTQ help lines and community centers and outreach. Not that anyone should give people specific advice here but to be able to offer help to those who are desperately in need of support. When it comes to health I cannot even count how many gainers have had severe medical issues that many people do not want to realize discuss or face. And support of knowledge and reality checks could be so helpful to so many of the members here. It disturbs me greatly when I see very young gainers succumbing to the cyber nature of the obsession giving them only a Self worth that's based only on their weight gain
This site and its many hundreds and hundreds of members could be so helpful to so many fellow members.

It seems like you are not listening. I want a gay website for Gay singles only. Not Grommr or Chasabl. Sorry you just don't have the power to create a website that I would like to have that isn't fetish related. Reddit has a better LGBT community than you do. Sorry but if you can't or aren't willing to listen than I will take my business elsewhere. Reddit is 10 times more LGBT and gay friendly then you guys are. Sorry it's the truth. Maybe someday you will actually be a decent community. But not when you have scrubs who doesn't know how to create a gay community that is more positive. Also no fat guys either. You did this to yourselves. I lost a lot of respect to you and your websites. You are like toilet water. A waste of time and money.